RHOBH star Erika Jayne’s new Army veteran boyfriend nicknamed ‘Shrek’ revealed as ex Tom Girardi heads to prison

The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star Erika ‘Jayne’ Girardi is reportedly dating John ‘Shrek’ McPhee, a retired US Army special operations sergeant major, as her long-delayed divorce from prison-bound estranged second husband Thomas Girardi enters its fifth year.

The U.S. Sun obtained pictures of Erika – turning 54 this Thursday – holding hands with the 54-year-old SOB Tactical founder while running errands in Los Angeles on Monday.

John has fathered two adult children, one of whom (his son) followed in his footsteps by enlisting in the US Army, and he’s been ‘divorced several times.’

‘It’s a hard life, you know? I think it’s a hard life because no one understands, like, your level of commitment,’ McPhee explained on The Megyn Kelly Show May 26.

‘And I say that in a way, like, you’re choosing something that might cause your death over and over. People don’t see that as rational, but they don’t understand. You know what I mean? 

‘So I would say being married was like being in prison. You could call home, and you ain’t going there anytime soon…That’s how marriage works in the Army.’

The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star Erika ‘Jayne’ Girardi is reportedly dating John ‘Shrek’ McPhee, a retired US Army special operations sergeant major, as her long-delayed divorce from prison-bound estranged second husband Thomas Girardi enters its fifth year

The self-described ‘Sheriff of Baghdad’ noted: ‘Only guys that had perfect relationships, their marriages survived the war.’

Lately, John has been employed as a bodyguard for The Hills alum Heidi Montag at her concerts where he proudly dons a ‘Team Heidi’ shirt.

McPhee retired from the Army in 2011 after 20 years of service deployed in Afghanistan and Iraq, and he regularly offers his expertise to civilians, law enforcement, and militaries worldwide.

Jayne (born Chahoy) previously mothered 32-year-old LAPD officer Thomas Zizzo Jr. during her first marriage to DJ Thomas Zizzo, which ended in 1996 after five years.

The Dominos singer was then married for 21 years to Girardi, who was sentenced to 87 months in prison last month for his law firm allegedly embezzling over $15M from clients between 2010-2020.

The 86-year-old disbarred lawyer – who’s suffering from dementia and Alzheimer’s – was also fined $35K and ordered to pay restitution of $2.3M during the fraud trial.

Erika was performing in London when Tom was sentenced, which caused her show to be 5% worse than the prior show because ‘I was feeling sorry for myself.’

‘It just hurts,’ Jayne lamented on the June 13th episode of her podcast Diamonds in the Rough with Teddi Mellencamp.

‘It reopens old healing wounds, and it is something that, you know, I had a sold-out crowd in a theater just for me, and I was so grateful. My happiest place in the whole world to be is on stage. So while I was happy … there’s a little piece [of me] that was like, “Ugh.”‘

The U.S. Sun obtained pictures of Erika (not pictured) – turning 54 this Thursday – holding hands with the 54-year-old SOB Tactical founder (L, pictured June 29) while running errands in Los Angeles on Monday

John has fathered two adult children, one of whom (his son) followed in his footsteps by enlisting in the US Army, and he’s been ‘divorced several times’

McPhee explained on The Megyn Kelly Show May 26: ‘I would say being married was like being in prison. You could call home, and you ain’t going there anytime soon…That’s how marriage works in the Army’

The self-described ‘Sheriff of Baghdad’ noted: ‘Only guys that had perfect relationships, their marriages survived the war’

Lately, John (L, pictured June 29) has been employed as a bodyguard for The Hills alum Heidi Montag (R) at her concerts where he proudly dons a ‘Team Heidi’ shirt

McPhee retired from the Army in 2011 after 20 years of service deployed in Afghanistan and Iraq, and he regularly offers his expertise to civilians, law enforcement, and militaries worldwide (pictured June 14)

Jayne was married for 21 years to Girardi (L), who was sentenced to 87 months in prison last month for his law firm allegedly embezzling over $15M from clients between 2010-2020 

The 86-year-old disbarred lawyer – who’s suffering from dementia and Alzheimer’s – was also fined $35K and ordered to pay restitution of $2.3M during the fraud trial (pictured August 7)

The Dominos singer was performing in London when Tom was sentenced, which caused her show to be 5% worse than the prior show because ‘I was feeling sorry for myself’ (pictured last Saturday)

Erika lamented on the June 13th episode of her podcast Diamonds in the Rough with Teddi Mellencamp: ‘It just hurts. It reopens old healing wounds, and it is something that, you know, I had a sold-out crowd in a theater just for me’

Erika continued: ‘And I was so grateful. My happiest place in the whole world to be is on stage. So while I was happy … there’s a little piece [of me] that was like, “Ugh”‘

Last Saturday, Jayne joined the Scissor Sisters onstage LA’s Kia Forum to help them perform their 2012 gay anthem Let’s Have a Kiki during the band’s 37-date co-headlining T**s Out Tour with pop star Kesha 

In 2022, a judge ruled in a $5M civil fraud lawsuit that the plaintiffs could not prove The Masked Singer ‘Yorkie’ had knowledge of or involvement in the alleged fraud.

Last Saturday, Erika joined the Scissor Sisters onstage LA’s Kia Forum to help them perform their 2012 gay anthem Let’s Have a Kiki during the band’s 37-date co-headlining T**s Out Tour with pop star Kesha.

Jayne has been hard at work filming the 15th season of her Bravo reality show, which captures the debut of fashion designer Rachel Zoe and the exit of Garcelle Beauvais.